I've spent the summer integrating: allowing lots of different experiences and influences to settle into place. After two books and lots of work on the next evolution of our NLP+ and NLP Practitioner certification, it's time for a fresh focus and energy here.
Over the years, I have heard many theories about the most important drivers of learning, satisfaction and influence. I've been taught that rapport is the key to influence. That didn't seem true. Great leaders don't always spend a lot of time or effort to meet your where you live. They allow you to move to them. I've been taught that sensory acuity was the key to success. That seemed more true, but it didn't explain how to keep your senses turned up while also noticing patterns and creating change. Some NLP trainers even feel that the key to success is following someone else's methods. While I see the merit in starting on proven ground, I can't see the key to change being the ability to do the same thing the same way as someone else.
Here's what I have come to believe is the key to being more satisfied, more successful and more influential: be your best self. I know - it sounds a little lame. But at any given moment, you're probably not putting your best self to work in the world. It's sometimes hard to believe, but if you go looking for more strength, more smarts, or more love, you'll probably find that they are already in you, just waiting to be recognized and put to work.
In NLP, when we find a new perspective or an old strength to apply to a problem, we say we are integrating. This blog is called Integrate! because it's goal is to help you shift your perspective just enough to find a new resource (a strength, a memory, a strategy) to integrate into the thing that has your attention now. You might want to integrate more strength, more joy or more compassion into building something amazing. You might be stuck, and want to integrate some movement and flexibility. You might be sad and looking for a way forward while your grieving and healing happen.
Every week, I'll add a post designed to help you get a shift or give a shift to someone else. You'll learn that your state (your attitude and thoughts and physical feelings at a particular time) isn't something that happens to you. Your state is a choice you make to heighten your awareness of some things and forget others.
A shift is a choice you make to find a small difference and let it grow.