Hypnotic language, focus and manipulation

It seems to me that hypnotic language has been largely misunderstood and misrepresented. On the one hand, it's largely dismissed as filler or nonsense; on the other, grandiose claims are made for its usefulness in controlling other people's behaviours. Both factions miss the point: hypnotic language is immensely useful for the same reason that hypnosis is useful. It is chosen precisely because it gives focus to the audience's imagination. The audience (the listener or reader) of hypnotic language is pulled away from outside influence and encouraged to play with his or her own perceptions.

If I were to write this using more hypnotic language patterns, you would begin to slip out of the frames I am setting and into a deeper focus on whatever is now within you, calling for attention in the midst of all the noise you hear from other people. You would begin to drift away, comfortably, not into the world I chose, but precisely into the world of your own making. Ideas might click into place; sensory representations might float into and through your awareness. You would begin to think your thought through my words.

And as your thoughts were released from the noise, your breathing might slow, and depen, and become even more comfortable and the oxygen might flow more freely through your system, and you might begin to noitce that you were letting go of aches or pains or distractions. You might feel your muscles relax as you noticed what you were noticing. Your eyelids might resist following my train of thought, so that you could more easily pursue those thoughts, your thoughts, floating into your awareness now.

But since you need your eyes to read, your eyes will stay open and you will wonder, a little, what it was that was said in that paragraph. And then you will leave this page, and move on, with a clearer sense of what you want to do next. And the thoughts on your mind will be your thoughts. And you will be so engaged with them that you wil hardly be aware that. . .

You were freed to think those thoughts, those thoughts that are so precisely your own. You were freed because you began with focus on sentences that seemed to have no focus of their own. Sentences that rambled, gently. . . so that you could walk with purpose.

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