Think about integrity

integrity
/integriti/

• noun 1 the quality of being honest and morally upright. 2 the state of being whole or unified. 3 soundness of construction.
                                                                   The Compact Oxford English Dictionary


I like to think that the common elements in different definitions of integrity is the ability to withstand external pressure and keep it together.  

People who are fundamentally honest keep it together because all the different parts of their lives fit into one pattern of truth. People who are fundamentally reliable keep themselves together by maintaining a pattern of relationships that stabilizes their sense of who they are and what they want most.  People of integrity have stability.

People of integrity also have flexibility. Because they know their own minds, they are not afraid to look at other points of view. Because they know their own direction, they can find more than one way to get where they are going.  Integrity allows people to move and change and yet to know themselves to be essentially whole and 'of sound construction.'

Your integrity is important to you. It gives you the strength and flexibility to keep yourself together as you take action in the world. The integrity of others is important to you. It allows you to predict how they will act and react.  It allows you to work with them.

What do you do differently when something is important to you?

What are you doing to support integrity in yourself and others?

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