Beginning again

I wonder why we talk about starting over as if it means we have somehow wasted time or effort. Speakers and performers know that the beginning and ending of a performance are the most memorable. If you can arrange to start more than once, you get a second chance to make a first impression.

If you are starting again on a different kind of activity, it's possible that starting again means that the task has a second chance to make a great first impression on you.  Starting again can be fresh, energizing, and shiny new.  

Tomorrow, we will start again: it is the third weekend of a three weekend course.  Saturday mornings are full of anticipation. It is a little like waiting for the start of a race.  The fact that we are starting over with friends makes it a better start.

It's spring.  It's raining.  Lots of things are starting again.  Enjoy.

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