Here in Toronto, it's Thanksgiving weekend. It seems to me that thanksgiving is the most NLP of all the holidays. It involves knowing what you want and recognizing it in what you already have. When we pay attention to something, it tends to become bigger. Whether this is because we attract more of it, or because we simply notice it more, is not as important as the impact on how we experience our lives. When we recognize the value in what we already have, we feel better about ourselves and our world. Practically speaking, the fastest way to make your life better is to pay attention to what is already working.
It's hard to be thankful when you are focused on what is broken, lost or out of reach.
If you're feeling thankful now, stop reading and go celebrate. If you're not feeling thankful yet, if the holiday feels like words without meaning, then take a moment and think about what you would fight to save. It's easier to think about fighting than gratitude when you're in a certain mood, but those things that you want to protect are the things that you value. They are the things you already have that are worth appreciating.
Now do something with what you have discovered. If you are a person who prays, you can pray your thanks. If you have received something you value from someone else, you can say thank you. If you're not sure who to thank, you can pay it forward by doing something to create more of that thing you value in the life of someone else.
You started with some fight in you. Use it to make more of something that you or someone else can be thankful for.