Where to find a unicorn in a pandemic

Unicorn crafts

Have you been feeling the need for a unicorn lately? A mythical creature of healing and hope that magically appears to right wrongs and detoxify with a touch of its horn?

I wonder if you would recognize a unicorn when it appeared.  You might say, "it's just a horse, or a trick, or I saw it wrong."

Four days a week, I meet with two 5-year old friends and we make crafts and tell stories by Zoom. It takes about ten hours a week to do the Zooms and prepare stories and crafts, and most of those hours come out of the middle of my day. 

We sometimes call the middle of something the heart.  At the heart of my days is a five year old giggling.  In that moment, all is well. That's a unicorn.

If you need a unicorn, be one.  The girls' moms think I am giving them the most amazing gift by showing up for their kids in the middle of the day (and letting their moms get one work call in without an interruption). They think that I am the unicorn.

But I know that in the middle of my days, there are now bright, bright eyes, and giggles and a practice of hope and healing. I know a unicorn when I see one. I've been studying them by making them.

Your unicorn will look different. That's why they are so hard to see. But somewhere in your life or work, there is a moment when the moment is enough. And somewhere in your life, there is a connection waiting to be made. You have what it takes to do just one thing that focuses you and makes something better in the world.

Maybe you are wallowing in inertia while you wait for things to change outside. Or maybe you are working longer hours than ever before and wishing for your old routine. Whether or not you do one more thing, you'll be tired and cranky.

So why not push yourself to do just one good thing?  As you make some unicorns, you will learn to recognize them when they appear in the middle of your day.

There are more unicorns than you think.



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